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Thursday, February 19, 2009

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AS SENSEI'S

You may have a situation where you clearly see someone else needs to make changes in themselves and/or their lifestyle. The changes needed, would help the individual and those around them. Is it possible to change other people? You can't change other people. You can "influence" them, but change has to come from the individual. Unless the person is willing and able to change, they won't. You may spend a lot of time trying to get it through someone's head what they need to change, yet your words fall upon deaf ears. You may spend countless hours worrying about the person and what is going to happen to them if they don't make changes. Often, the person who doesn't change, affects our life. Sometimes they hurt us. Sometimes their behavior is insulting and possibly harmful to others.The individual may not even have a bad lifestyle and their behavior is something that simply bugs you and causes a lot of anger and distress. How do you deal with someone who affects your life, but isn't making the necessary changes? You have to accept that you cannot change others, but can only change yourself. This may mean changing your perception of the situation or changing the way you deal with the situation or even disengaging from the person all together. It's always best to look at yourself first and see if it's you that needs to make changes or if the other person truly needs to change. We, as individuals, have pet peeves. What one person sees as an irritating flaw in another, others may not even notice. Start with yourself first and ask what about the other person irritates you. What specifically about the other person needs to change? Is it really your issue or the other person's issue? Assess your feelings, whether they be of jealousy, anger, envy, impatience, etc. You may discover that you have issues and the other person is the trigger. Does the person's behavior or lifestyle cause harm to themselves or others? In that case, the changes needed are obvious.How can you help influence someone who needs to change? The most effective way of "helping" to bring change into a person's life is constructive influence. A lot of people use destructive influence, which often pushes the person away. How you treat someone can make a huge difference. If you retaliate disrespect with disrespect, it becomes a viscious cycle. If you push too forcefully, you will push the other person away.The person who needs to change may not see themselves as you do. They may have had experiences that conditioned them to be this way. They may be very frightened of change or don't even know how to make the necessary changes. Often, they keep their feelings to themselves about what they are going through and opening up doesn't come easy. This is why you need to use constructive influence. If you try to control the other person, they won't be open to listening. They may see you as the one who needs to change if you go on rants about what is wrong with them. Who is enthusiastically willing to listen to anyone who only points out the bad? There are tactful ways to get a point across without making someone feel worse about themselves.Do you remember how it felt as a child when the bully approached you and made threats? You wanted to run in the opposite direction or get even. The approach instilled fear, resentment and anger. If you use the same approach in trying to get someone to change, it will backfire. You have to create a comfortable atmosphere and an open platform for the person to feel comfortable in talking to you or truly listening to what you have to say. Patience, kindness and empathy go a long way. Can you accept the person "as is" without it affecting your well-being?Sometimes, depending on the situation, we have no choice but to disengage ourselves from certain individuals. It's important to assess, how the person that needs to change, affects your well-being. If the person brings physical or emotional harm into your life, you have no obligation to be around them. Otherwise, you have to weigh the pros and cons of having this person in your life. It's important to understand that you cannot change someone else, but you can be an influence in possibly bringing change into their life. Can you accept the person "as is" if they never make changes? Is your ultimate goal to change or even control them or to love them "as is"? People are diverse. Some we will be drawn to in a very positive way. Others are difficult to be around whether it's an irritating habit or a destructive lifestyle. Some people will influence our life very adversely. But, we can be a positive influence in someone else's life by letting go of what we cannot control and doing our best to be a help and not a hindrance.To quote Mahatma Gandhi - "You must be the change you want to see in the world." The same theory applies when dealing with people in your life. You must be the change (influence) you want to see in others.

Sansei

WORLD SANSEI KORYU GOJU-RYU KARATEDO

世界三世紅竜の剛柔の龍は組織空手道

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(International Old-Style Karate Goju Association)

Established 1979

The New Path

A tree reaches past your embrace grows from one small seed.

A structure over nine stories high begins with a handful of earth.

A journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step.

TAO 64

This passage from a manuscript written centuries ago holds true today. The Kokusai Koryu Gojuryu Karatedo has grown geometrically since its inception in 1979. It has grown from a small group of students to its current existence as a world re-known organization.

The mission of the World Sansei Koryu Gojuryu Karatedo is to promote excellence in its members. Students becoming members in the organization will grow physically, mentally, and spiritually. Karate provides knowledge that will last the lifetime of the student. Discipline and preparedness learned in the Dojo will allow the students to perform at higher levels, giving them a competitive edge, both in school and in the workplace. The student that accepts the Karate way sets himself or herself forever on the path of excellence.

SANSEI

WORLD SANSEI KORYU GOJU-RYU KARATEDO

(International Old-Style Karate Goju Association)

Established 1979

WORLD SANSEI KORYU GOJU-RYU

KARATE & KOBUDO ORGANIZATION

The “Crane” is our symbol, which represents simplicity, beauty, nature, character and the essence of life; it characterizes the goodness that our organization represents by our membership, and our commitment to family and community involvement.

As a Taoist representation it's yang side also represents its dynamic striking ability, smooth, flowing, lighting fast, effortless, with unyielding, unforgiving accuracy

The red interior represents health, strength, physical energy, passion, courage, protection. The color of the element of Fire, Red is associated with blood (and thus, life and death), and intense emotions.

The black outline represents the banishing of negativity.

The white represents Protection and Purification.

The symbol is a reminder of natural law, the order of life and the wisdom you need to live it.

The World Sansei Koryu Goju-Ryu Karate and Kobudo Organization's name and logo are owned by the Organization. Members are cautioned to use them only for the purposes of demonstrating rank certification and certifying students who are in good standing within the Organization.Membership in the World Sansei Goju-Ryu Karate and Kobudo Organization is an honor and privilege! A lifetime of hard work, dedication, and study from the Founder allows the Organization to exist - and it has for 31 years! The Organizational Hombu needs support and cannot sustain itself on its own. The Organizational fees are but a small token of one's loyalty towards this Organization. All members who desire to remain in good standing with the Organization will have their dues paid in full each year and will be posted on the international website. All members are expected to hold the highest standards of respect and dignity. As a member you are encouraged to take full advantage of the services of the Organization. You may elect to use any service we offer at any time.We are all equal under the Arts. The only special consideration given to any member will be the respect afforded to one's rank. This privilege will be given to each member by another. It is only proper that one’s accomplishments in the Arts be recognized.To acquire an accurate understanding of Loyalty, one must understand the meaning of the word Loyalty along with what Loyalty actually represents, both culturally and symbolically.

The World Sansei Goju-Ryu Karatedo Organization's “oath of allegiance" relates to words such as loyalty, commitment, adherence and faithfulness. Loyalty is an actual act of truce between people. Those who believe in our ideology would "Be Loyal" to them. The act of Loyalty is formalized by a special handshake in the way of holding forearms.

Once this Loyalty in understood , it symbolizes support and devotion towards each other. It is also noted that there are no contracts, no formal agreements, only a simple handshake . That in itself emphasizes a simple trust and belief in each other more than anything else.

This Karate Association follows the same path and ideology as one can expect from its title "Loyalty". Its Karate teachings very much parallel the same virtues of loyalty, honesty and commitment; and it promotes supporting and helping each other to achieve the same goals and objectives in Karate-Do.This Karate Association can be viewed as a "way of life" to help promote a unique perspective of life - the wisdom to perceive the benefits of adopting a nonviolent attitude, the virtue of being patient and the tranquility of possessing peace in our lives.

World Sansei Gojuryu Karate-do Organization was founded by Manny Saavedra, currently the Head Instructor of the Karate Association with one major goal in mind: to enrich the quality of life of its practitioners and to develop a strong sense of camaraderie, solidarity and team work among members ... all in the Way of Karate.